Now that we have delved into the psyche of the Narcissist , and understand a little bit more about what motivates them , it’s time to focus on the “supporting actors”, in their dramas, the” Enablers”, and “Flying Monkeys” .
The Enabler is easy enough to understand . The Enabler allows the Narcissist to do their thing, whether its minimizing their lying and manipulation , to telling sad stories , so others will feel sorry for , and join them in their enabling efforts as well . If you have known a Narcissist, there is a high probability that at least one of their parents enabled them . It began in childhood, and usually does not cease until the parent passes away. Narcissists, in turn seek an empathetic partner similar to their parent’s enabling , and they create the “narcissist/ enabler bond- the yin to their dark yang ” , (which I speak about in another blog post.)
The term “Flying Monkey” is a nod to the movie, “Wizard of Oz”. The Wicked Witch of the West’s would dispatch these flying minions to seek out and locate Dorothy and Company , who were en route to seek the Wizard . These Monkeys were menacing , as they circled above the Witch’s prey, like Vultures waiting to descend upon their next meal .
The Narcissist’s “Flying Monkeys” can be thought of a whole system of people known to the Narcissist, who ultimately serves as their puppet master. These are often friends, and family who are sympathetic to the Narcissist’s “plight”. These are people whom the Narcissist has influenced and manipulated into seeing things from their perspective .
Remember, the Narcissist is a master of manipulation, and they are adept at manipulating not only the individual , but multiples, and even the masses. It’s nothing for them to concoct a sob story about how you did them dirty , and they were the one left sad, and broken hearted .
The Flying Monkeys often help to regulate, harass, and boundary break for the Narc. The Narcs often use them like puppets. They are so influenced, in fact, they will often parrot , or repeat specific phrases the Narcissist has communicated to them, almost serving like a “round” in a song. Repeating the chorus of the Narcissist is what the Flying Monkeys do best. They often are so loyal ( again, out of perceived sympathy for the Narc) they will often go to great lengths to offer them good press, and minimize your story .
